Nashville Child Photographer.
My kids are both mine, I’m pretty sure 🙂 But they are 2 totally different creatures. Completely different. My oldest was born 60 years old. She has always been such an old soul. I swear the kid would practically role her eyes at people. As a baby she was so quiet and always so serious. I worried when she didn’t smile or laugh “on time.” And while other babies were giggling and crying and then giggling and then crying again, I was confused. My baby just stared at people! She turned into a thoughtful and empathetic toddler. She would cry when other kids got hurt. And give out lots of hugs. So many hugs. And then she turned into a dramatic and sensitive pre-schooler. She is quiet, shy and extremely cautious. All that baby proofing? We didn’t need it. She’s like a wise old 80 year old when she meets a stair or corner of a counter. And the kid is stubborn and she MUST. GET. HER. WAY. OR. ELSE.
When my second was born, I just thought she’d be like her big sister. But I couldn’t have been more wrong. The kid flew out of the womb smiling and laughing. She would spend her baby days just giggling away in her bouncy chair. And once she started walking she turned into a total HAM. I mean this kid could have a career as a clown. She does everything in her power to get you to laugh. Funny faces, funny noises, funny movements. You name it. And she is ALWAYS TALKING AND LAUGHING. That baby proofing? Saved her life. We actually have no kitchen furniture because she kept climbing on top of the counter and dancing. She is totally fearless. She regularly shocks playground moms with her climbing and antics. When she doesn’t get her way? Oh well. Moving on.
Each kid has their own set of challenges, believe me. Some days I just barely get through the day. And it requires completely different parts of my brain to process their behavior and react (somewhat) appropriately. It’s exhausting. But I am constantly wondering – these kids have the same parents, and share 50% of their DNA. But they couldn’t be more different. Even physically, the oldest is a red head, short and skinny. The youngest is blond and a future linebacker. Is it birth order? I don’t think so. Their personalities were so obvious so immediately after birth, there was no time for a birth order effect here. Same goes for environment.
So without any conclusions as to how they ended up this way, my only solution is to embrace their unique personalities and hope that their uniqueness shines into adulthood 🙂